So you’re thinking about buying your first men’s toy. First off, good on you.
Taking charge of your pleasure and your wellness is something to be proud of, not something to whisper about. But if you’re feeling a little hesitant or overwhelmed, you’re not alone.
Every man remembers his first time stepping into this world, and the truth is: it’s not complicated. You just need the right guide.
At Hank’s, we believe self-pleasure is a part of self-care. So consider this your discreet, judgment-free roadmap for finding the toy that fits you best.
Step 1: Decide What You Want Out of the Experience
Ask yourself: are you looking for something that enhances what you already do, or something entirely new? Some toys are built to intensify sensation during solo time, while others add variety, texture, or a fresh angle on pleasure.
There’s no wrong answer. This is about you.
Step 2: Keep It Simple (at First)
When it’s your first toy, think sleek, not overwhelming. A well-crafted sleeve or stroker is often the perfect entry point. It’s intuitive, discreet, and gives you an elevated version of what you already know. Think of it as upgrading from the house wine to a perfectly aged bourbon.
Step 3: Choose Quality Over Gimmicks
There’s no shortage of loud, neon gadgets out there, but that’s not what you want. A first toy should be made of body-safe materials, designed with craftsmanship in mind, and discreet enough to live quietly in your nightstand. If it looks like it was built for a bachelor party gag gift, it’s not for you.
Step 4: Think Discretion and Care
A refined man keeps things clean and cared for. Look for toys that are easy to wash, quick to dry, and discreet to store. Most quality options are built with maintenance in mind—because nothing kills the mood like unnecessary hassle.
Step 5: Give Yourself Permission
Here’s the part no one tells you: buying a men’s toy isn’t just about pleasure. It’s about wellness, stress relief, and taking ownership of your body. Studies have even linked regular ejaculation to potential prostate health benefits. So that little purchase? It’s not indulgence—it’s investment.
Final Word (from Hank)
Your first toy doesn’t have to be a big statement piece or a leap into the unknown. Start with something simple, refined, and built to last. The right one will blend seamlessly into your life, not shout for attention, but quietly elevate your private moments.
Because here’s the truth: there’s nothing awkward about investing in yourself. The only mistake would be waiting too long to start.